Supporting Challenging Conversations
War in Ukraine
Mrs Griffin led worship on Tuesday 1st March with a focus on the current events in Ukraine. The letter and slides below outline what was covered with the children and should be used by parents to support them in the conversations that they are currently having at home.
When planning the worship, Mrs Griffin referred to advice given by 'Save the Children': 'How to talk to children about war'.
The advice gives 5 main points:
1. MAKE TIME AND LISTEN
Give children the space to talk when they want to – even if you're in the middle of something else. Encourage them to tell you what they know, how they feel and to ask you questions.
2. TAILOR THE CONVERSATION TO THE CHILD
Older children will need more details while younger ones may be satisfied just by understanding that sometimes countries fight. Be informed, keep calm and answer questions honestly. Begin with simple information – too much detail may overwhelm and cause anxiety.
3. VALIDATE THEIR FEELINGS
Speak to the child about how they feel. It is important that children feel supported in the conversation. They should not feel judged or have their concerns dismissed. When children have the chance to have an open and honest conversation about things upsetting them, they can feel relieved.
4. REASSURE THEM
Remind them that this is not their problem to solve. Adults all over the world are working hard to fix this. They shouldn't feel guilty playing, seeing their friends and doing the things that make them feel happy.
5. GIVE THEM A PRACTICAL WAY TO HELP
For example, they could start fundraisers, write letters to local decision-makers or create drawings for peace. Children who have the opportunity to help can feel like they are part of the solution instead of feeling helpless.
Please reach out to school if you would like any further support with this. We will continue to follow the news and will be addressing events in worship as appropriate, We will be sharing content and messages shared with parents too.